Finding a counsellor is not about picking someone from a list.
...We're all unique, with different needs, looking for different things.  What works well for one person doesn't work for the next.
This site is all about helping you get a sense of whether I might be a counsellor you want to try, and then make your decisions from there.

​We all need help, from time to time.  And even when we're travelling well, most of us still have a desire to get to know ourselves better, including where we stand in relation to the world and how we relate to other people.
There's an assumption that we should somehow already be great at life, despite not generally being given all of the skills.
I think that finding the right counsellor can go a long way towards helping us to learn those skills, mostly from within ourselves.

About me

My name is Roger Butler.  I'm a counsellor, workshop facilitator, and human being.
I know nothing about you, or your stories, or the 'right' way forwards for you.  In fact, the moment I assume I know any of those things, I'm failing you.  My job is to listen, work with you to explore possibilities, and watch your feedback closely - there are no magic external solutions that can be applied from the outside.
​You can read more about my training and experience at 'about me'.

What I offer

  • Most general counselling & well-being issues
  • Coaching (small business and self-employment is a passion!)
  • Body symptoms - chronic or acute (as a compliment to mainstream medicine)
  • Body image
  • Addictions
  • Depression
  • Illness & carers
  • Sexuality specialist - pleasure, high / low libido, bodies that don't quite do what you want
  • Adventurous sexuality (kink, power exchange, fetishes, consent)
  • Gender issues - non-binary, women's, men's, trans, etc.
  • Sex-work (worker support, partner support, coaching) 
  • Communication, boundaries, consent
  • A-sexuality (non-sexuality)
  • Relationship specialist
  • Conflicts, disharmony, disagreement, transition, 'scheduled maintenance'
  • Monogamous & non-monogamous
  • Working out the relationship style for you

What I don't offer

I don't promise to be able to assist with everything (and nor should any counsellor), but I'd welcome the opportunity to have a 20-minute chat about situations not on the above lists - please get in touch via the contacts page.
As a counsellor (rather than a psychologist), I can't assist with clinical diagnosis, and I can't prescribe medications or recommend same.  Similarly, I'm unable to participate in the Australian Medicare rebate scheme.
In addition to being a counsellor, I run a variety of workshops in self-development and sexuality.  For reasons of ethics and professionalism, you can't be a counselling client as well as a participant in my more adventurous workshops - a waiting period may apply.

Where to from here?

If you're interested, have a read about what sessions are like, and how much I charge.
From there, get in touch via the 'Contact' page.